What does it mean to stop trying to conceive?
What do you need to do to come to terms with your decisions?
What will your family life look like?
Are you having a difficult time deciding on stopping treatment?
Is adoption or going child-free your best option?
How do you deal with making the decision to stop fertility treatment?
The infertility roller coaster and treatment hurricane leave us with deep emotional scars and severe stresses on ourselves and our relationships with others. Trying to conceive comes with very high costs for most people; financially, emotionally, mentally and physically. If you have already met with an ‘Infertility Coach’ you should have set goals based on your values around treatment options and where you want to go with them and when enough is enough. For many of us (and this number is rising) it does not matter what we do we will never produce a baby. Do we have a plan in place if we are not to produce a baby?
Sometimes we need to look beyond fertility and treatment. We need to regain control of our lives and decide exactly what we want to have for a family. If stopping treatment (not an easy thing for any of us, because our ‘what if’ mind sets in) and looking at adoption or living child-free, you will face many difficult times. Coaching helps you decide what you really value in creating your family.
If you choose to adopt, ‘Family Planning Coaching’ is very beneficial, it helps walk you through what you can expect, what your options are. ‘Adoption Coaching” helps you go about finding the right child for you (if you choose to adopt) - domestic, international, etc. ‘Family Planning Coaching’ provides the personal - emotional support while you do so. If you choose the child-free option, or adoption, you need to picture what your family life will look like and how you will go about making that happen. Many adoption agencies provide coaching but again you are better with an unbiased coach and family and friends are fantastic but like dealing with infertility, they are neither unbiased nor nonjudgmental.
How do you deal with all the holidays, questions, etc.? Your coach can help you move through this difficult time and decide what will be the best choices for you. No matter what option you choose, treatment does not end the roller coaster ride, it just changes the route and the riders. Coaching helps you work your way through the new road you will travel.
To discuss your options after infertility, or seek help in dealing with life after treatment, contact Judi to see how coaching can help you.